Can we just be really real for a second? Being a Mom is hard. Like crazy hard. Like so hard sometimes you want to just drop to the fetal position and cry, hard. But it can also be rewarding. Like super rewarding. Like you can conquer the world and may even run for President, rewarding.
So why is it, that we as Moms feel so inclined to tell other Moms what they are doing wrong? Why do we feel entitled to let another Mother know that shes not doing it right? What so funny is that we have no idea what other moms are really dealing with. We have no clue if this may have been a good day or a bad day. So who are we to judge.
Now, don’t get me wrong, we have ALL seen another Mom do something that just doesn’t sit right with us and that may be cause for concern, but this isn’t what I am talking about. I am talking about the everyday “Mom Shaming” that goes on. The ”she doesn’t breastfeed.”, “can you believe she uses cloth diapers?”, “her kid doesn’t sleep, they must be doing it all wrong.”, “did you see that tantrum her kid threw? There must be something wrong!”, “They are doing that Baby lead weaning thing and their kid is totally going to choke!”, “they let their kids eat on the couch.”, “I can’t believe she is going back to work!”, and “I can’t believe she is going to be a stay at home mom!“ Ok, Ok I think you get the point. When did having a child make us all experts on Morherhood?
Sure, I’ve learned more in the 16 months of being a Mom than I think I’ve learned in my whole life combined. But that’s just it… we all are always learning. And we need to understand, mother to mother, that every situation, beliefs, parenting styles, kids are ALL different. And that different things, work for different moms. So can we we just put the mom shaming to bed already?!?
We need to support each other in every obstacle that we encounter. We need to as moms, support each other and be there for each other. We need to be there for all the tantrums, dirty diapers and sleepless nights. We are all just doing the best we know how!
If you know a Mom who may be struggling, reach out to her. Tell her she is doing great! And be there for support! We are all just heros with no cape, and many times under appreciated and judged.
So if you are a mom who is having a tough go at it, just know, you are amazing, beautiful and strong! Mama, you are doing great!