It’s hard to believe but February is staring us in the face. It feels like just last week, we were watching the ball drop and setting New Year’s resolutions for the year to come. I know for me, January flew by and I feel like I am still trying to wrap things up from 2019. But none the less, February is here and this year is already going faster than anticipated.
But with February arriving, comes Valentine’s Day. Admittedly so, not always my favorite day of the year. And Scot and I haven’t always celebrated this Hallmark holiday. But since getting pregnant with Henry, its a day we now celebrate together. It’s a day for us to just reflect on our marriage and everything that comes with it.
So with that, usually come date night and a few gifts to show our appreciation for each other. Now, if gifts arent your thing, there are soooo many other ways to show each other how much you love them. Trust me, gifts are NOT our love language, but it does feel pretty good when we get to spoil each other a little bit. And for the record, we don’t wait until Valentine’s Day or other holidays to do this, but I just thought now would be a good time to share some things that we love that are outside of the whole flowers and chocolate.
So I’ve rounded up a few of my favorite things for him and her that are sure to make your significant other know how much you love them.
1. Plan a date night. I don’t care who you are if you get some quality one on one time with your significant other, it makes your relationship stronger. I know for Scot and me, a day/night away from Henry helps us reset and talk on a deeper level than we could with Henry hanging from our pant legs. It doesn’t have to be anything crazy, but just a few hours away, just the two of you. Go to dinner, a movie, a cooking class or a walk in the park, just spend some time together.
2. Plan a weekend getaway. This was so uber important for Scot and me, especially after Henry’s first year. The first year was tough because he was still so little and we were new parents, but his second year we were ready to hit the road for a few days here and there. Our adults-only travel has been so refreshing for us. From one night to four, we have gone on a few trips now and we are so grateful for the time away.
3. Complete a Home Project Together. Go ahead and ask Scot Wahl what my love language is. He will tell you without a doubt, it’s completing home projects. When we make our home ours, it makes my heart flutter. Seriously, we are working on redoing our basement right now, and I have been giddy every time I walk down there now. It literally makes me happier than anything. Adding another cozy room to hang and play in, is the way to my heart! And I am now officially calling it The Babe Cave against Scot’s wishes. (Update on the basement remodel coming in the next few weeks!)
4. Set Goals and Intentions Together. At the beginning of the year, a lot of us set resolutions. So while you set your own, why not spend some time working on them together. Share your dreams and aspirations together. Knowing what each of you is wanting out of this life will only bring you closer and make you more supportive of each other in the end. And who knows, it could lead to some fun date nights and weekends away to get to some of these goals.
5. Cook dinner together. One of Scot and my favorite things to do when we were dating, was to have a date night in. We would take turns picking out the meal and then cook it together. It would usually be something a bit more gourmet than pasta and meatballs and always involved wine. We would both help make the meal and then sit together at the table. It’s a little more difficult these days with a toddler in the house, but this was always one of my favorite things to do.
6. Do something your significant other would never expect. For this what comes to mind, is go for a hike even though you hate hiking but because your significant other loves it. Or take a spontaneous road trip to somewhere your better half has always wanted to go. Even better, plan the whole thing and surprise them with it. These little surprises go a long way in my book. It makes me feel like I am being listened to and that Scot is listening to me when we talk about things that I want to do.
7. Buy each other gifts, that means something. So gifts are definitely not my love language, but the perfect gift, well that can go a long way. Gifts can be tricky sometimes. And for me, a diamond is pretty but it won’t show me how much you love me. Buying me something that you know I’ve been eyeing or talking about buying but know that I shouldn’t, tells me that you’ve been listening and paying attention. And that in itself shows me how much someone cares. Not a shiny diamond that just shows me how much of the money you spent. Now, if diamonds are your thing, then by all means. They just aren’t for me. And lucky for me, Scot knows that. So here are some things that I am loving right now for him and her.
I hope this helps make your Valentine’s Day gifting just a little easier!